Author: Maisie Thompson, Paediatric Occupational Therapist
4 min read
You may have heard the term executive functioning skills before, especially when exploring ways to support your child’s development. But what does it really mean — and why is it so important for children?
In simple terms, executive functioning skills are a group of mental processes that help us plan, organise, focus attention, regulate emotions, and manage daily tasks. These skills act like an air traffic control system for the brain — helping children juggle demands, adjust to change, and function independently in a busy world.
While these abilities are essential, children aren’t born with them fully developed. Executive functioning builds gradually, with guidance, practice, and support over time.
What Are Executive Functioning Skills?
Executive functioning is made up of several interconnected skills, including:
- Working memory: Holding and using information (e.g., remembering multi-step instructions).
- Inhibitory control: Thinking before acting, staying focused, and managing impulses.
- Cognitive flexibility: Adjusting when things change or when a new perspective is needed.
- Planning and organisation: Setting goals and taking steps to reach them.
- Emotional regulation: Managing big feelings in helpful, situation-appropriate ways.
- Task initiation and completion: Starting and following through with tasks, even when they’re challenging.
These skills take time to mature, and it’s completely normal for children to need ongoing support as they grow.

Why Executive Functioning Skills Matter for Kids
Executive functioning skills support nearly every part of a child’s daily life. Here’s how they help:
1. Learning at School
From following directions to managing time and switching tasks, executive skills are essential for school success.
2. Social Interactions
Waiting for a turn, adapting in group play, or managing disappointment — all of these rely on emotional and cognitive control.
3. Everyday Tasks
Simple routines like packing a school bag or remembering homework involve planning and working memory.
4. Emotional Wellbeing
Being able to self-soothe, problem-solve, and adjust expectations helps children feel confident and capable.
It’s Not About Laziness or Misbehaviour
When children struggle with executive functioning, it’s easy to assume they’re being lazy or defiant. But that’s not the case. These challenges often signal that a child needs more support — not discipline.
For neurodivergent children especially, executive functioning skills may develop differently or need more intentional guidance. Compassion and understanding go a long way in creating a safe space to grow.

How Can We Support Executive Function Development?
These skills are like muscles — they get stronger with use. Here are simple, relationship-based strategies to help:
- Break tasks into smaller steps
What seems simple to an adult might feel overwhelming to a child. Step-by-step support makes things manageable. - Use visuals and checklists
These tools reduce the mental load and encourage independence. - Create consistent routines
Predictable patterns make daily life smoother and help children learn what to expect. - Offer extra time and flexibility
Transitions can be tricky. Give advance warnings and provide a buffer when possible. - Model emotional regulation
Children learn from watching adults. Use real moments to show how you calm down or adapt. - Celebrate effort over outcomes
Praise the process — especially when children try hard, even if the result isn’t perfect.
Final Thoughts
Executive functioning skills don’t develop overnight. With time, guidance, and understanding, children can grow into these abilities at their own pace.
Instead of focusing on what’s not working, let’s ask: “What kind of support does this child need to succeed?” By creating supportive, connection-based environments, we help children thrive — not just academically, but emotionally and socially too.
If you feel like your child is struggling with executive functioning, talk to an occupational therapist for further guidance. Contact MoveAbout today. Check out our Facebook and Instagram pages for more education regarding sensory processing and regulation.